Heart Break

This picture quote, for many will sum up the true meaning of heartbreak for many people. I know many people reading this may be going through some hard stuff right now. But if you think by reading this you will find a way to miraculous ‘cure’ for how bad you are feeling, well im afraid to say it will not. I cannot provide any given method to stop your pain but I can give you advice on the best ways to deal and embrace your hurt.

One of the first things I learnt very early on my life is to see a silver lining in every situation. A quote which comes to mind is ‘What doesn’t kill you, only makes you stronger’. Instead of trying to cover the pain by distracting yourself or keeping busy, feel the pain to its core, embrace it, learn from it and try and see the positive of the situation.

I know this is easier said than done, but in situations like these I feel its always easier said than done. It helps if you have a strong family and friend’s network, who will always listen to you and pick you up when you are down, but I know many of us are not fortunate to have this in our lives and the best thing we can do is focus on the now and the ever so near future. Focus all that hurt and negative energy on something positive. Try to learn something from this hurt.

Even though your heart may feel broken, I promise you it is not. Your heart is an organ and it cannot ever be broken no matter how it feels. However, it is an organ that can be influenced by lack of sleep, lack of food and being dehydrated. It is important that you stay in key form even in times like this, keep well hydrated and eat as much as you can so you do not fall ill. This will only exacerbate the hurt you are feeling, so please all of you people out there going through this, don’t forget to take care of yourself.

If you have been dumped, it’s important to know this, and fully understand this and believe in it, are you ready to read this? YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS!, in case you missed it the first time I will repeat it again, ready? YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS! You was not dumped because you are not good enough. Relationships come to an end because of issues that concern compatibility and priority. You did nothing wrong, you could not have done anything different or better. Never change who you are for a person or even begin to doubt who you are. YOU are YOU and YOU are the PERFECT version of YOU. Never allow anyone’s opinions determine who you are as an individual or allow it to dictate how you should feel. I have written about this before in another blog post, but if you do not love yourself, how can you seek love from others?

Trying to keep positive in this particular situation is very difficult, but as time goes by, it does get easier and you will start to focus less and less of your energy thinking about that person who broke your heart, It is a long process, and it involves a lot of hurt, a lot of steps forward and even more steps back, but I feel as long as you focus on being well and getting through this, It will happen and you will have learnt so much from this situation it would have made you into a better person and a stronger person.

So embrace the hurt you are feeling, change your current perspective and adopt a different perspective of life. Try and see the good in every situation no matter how hard. Try to learn something in every situation no matter how bad it physically and mentally affects you. You will get through it just take it one day at a time and slowly that day will turn into a week, and the weeks will turn into a month and the months will turn into a year. It a work in progress, but it is nevertheless progress!.

Thank you for reading!