Backstabbing, a signature mark of a deceitful friend…

 If you cannot already tell by my posts, I am a huge believer of the effects of positive and negative energy, and the effect this has on an individual’s life. I believe this so much, that I automatically latch onto anything positive and steer clear from any negativity. A good friend of mine approached me and asked for my take on people being deceitful or backstabbing as everyone calls it, I think they are going through a bit of a rough time right now, but they are good hearted and very trusting from what I have seen, so I hope this helps shed a little bit of positivity on a negative situation.

This subject is one wich many of us have felt some sort of hurt over. This subject is very sensitive and very personal as we would not call it backstabbing and feel so hurt if it was not done by someone whom we had held in high regard and valued so very much. Whilst I cannot give you advice on how to avoid this hurt, I can however, give you my 2 pence worth of knowledge and understanding on this subject matter on how to turn that negativity into something more positive.

Firstly, we must understand and accept that we will not be liked or favoured by everyone we meet, and people will talk about us no matter how good our nature really is. In my humble experience people only spend time spreading hate and negativity because we intimidate them, and our being and existence is what threatens them. I take this to be a rather huge compliment on my part, but it still is an uncomfortable understanding on the other persons behalf as they are investing a lot of time and energy and only thing they are achieving is by doing so, is that they are filling themselves with negativity to their very core. It is all about changing your perspective of what you know life to be and adopting a different approach and a new set of skills in understanding and taking something positive out of anything negative.

Secondly, we must not allow people’s views to define us or bring us down. Do not give anyone the satisfaction or the power to do this. You need to be strong-willed and build upon your personal identity because once you know what you are and what you are not and you accept this, no one elses opinion will matter or even hurt you. This is key and very crucial, it will act as a defence mechanism that will work with the most closest of family and closest of friends.

Lastly, pity those who backstab you, for them, you are clearly worth the time and effort it takes for them to spread lies  and make people see you in a bad light, but more importantly, if someone knows what you are and what your character is like, they will not believe anyones opinion of you because they will recognise that the backstabber sole purpose is to make you look bad. But, if your friend believes them, it shows you what they think of you.

Always keep good friends with you, I know many say that they never saw the saddening backstabbing occurrences coming but the question to ask yourself is why did you not? everyone sees it coming but the only difference is that you are were too emotionally involved with the ‘friend’ to recognise the signs that we see get little glimpses off at the end.

Eminem says that ‘Dealing with backstabbers there was one thing I learned, they’re only powerful when you have your back turned’

Until next time…